Black Dads Love Well: Why I Started a blog about fatherhood

Fatherhood

Black Dads Love Well:

Why I Started A Blog About Fatherhood

Fatherhood

Black Dads Love Well:

Why I Started A Blog About Fatherhood

Hello! I’m Kobe. 

Hello! I’m Kobe. 

Amongst many other things, I am a husband to my beautiful wife, Victoria, and a father of two children, Axel and Baby girl. My earthly fatherhood journey started in 2019 when we learned that our son was on the way. Life as a parent became real when he arrived in early 2020 – a few weeks before the infamous COVID pandemic. 

When my son arrived, I knew very little about parenting. I had never changed a diaper, never heard of swaddling, and never held a newborn. Literally, weeks before his birth a couple-friend of ours allowed me to hold their newborn just so I could calm down about carrying something so small and “fragile”. With the help of my wife and little research of my own, being a father has become one of the acts that bring me much joy and fulfillment. 

Being a father is something I want to continue to learn about and share along the way

I absolutely love being a dad and can discuss so many facets of it all day. It feels incredible to be tasked with the challenge of raising beautiful, black, good-hearted humans. Being a parent has vast meaning and limitless things to explore. 

I find myself gravitating more to exploring ways to emotionally connect with my kids and to attend to their emotional needs. This is not the easiest thing to do, and I’m constantly evolving in this area.  I have and will continue to learn a lot about being an emotionally connected dad and would like to share information with others in hopes of improving their life and or/ fatherhood experience.

Improve myself as a person.

Fatherhood has taught me many things about myself. I’ve learned about my strengths and where there’s room for improvement. It has also shed some light on areas of my life that are not fully healed and need to be addressed. 

I struggle with anxiety, imposter syndrome, and an overall lack of confidence in my ability to achieve some of the dreams I have for myself. This blog is one of many aspirations I have in life. The routine required to research, write, publish, and stay engaged with my audience is a built-in diligence/confidence exercise I’m challenging myself with. 

Help my wife. 

My wife does a lot to make sure our children are on the path to success. I want to make sure our efforts match when it comes to investing in our children and make sure she has the time and space to invest in herself – even if that’s just chilling. 

Share information with other dads.

There are countless black fathers who sincerely want to be more involved and develop deeper, meaningful, relationships with their children. I would like to be a source of information to help achieve those desires. 

Rewrite / re-present the narrative attributed to black fathers and their kids

Although, it may be dwindling, historically, there is a stigma related to black fatherhood. Black fathers aren’t present, they aren’t engaged, and generally do not pull their weight when it comes to child-rearing. There are many movements to re-present this narrative, I hope this blog will be one of them. 

Many black dads are doing their part and I will be doing my best to make sure it is shown. Black dads are capable, repositories of love, and they give that love freely to their children.

Black dads love well.



Amongst many other things, I am a husband to my beautiful wife, Victoria, and a father of two children, Axel and Baby girl. My earthly fatherhood journey started in 2019 when we learned that our son was on the way. Life as a parent became real when he arrived in early 2020 – a few weeks before the infamous COVID pandemic. 

When my son arrived, I knew very little about parenting. I had never changed a diaper, never heard of swaddling, and never held a newborn. Literally, weeks before his birth a couple-friend of ours allowed me to hold their newborn just so I could calm down about carrying something so small and “fragile”. With the help of my wife and little research of my own, being a father has become one of the acts that bring me much joy and fulfillment. 

Being a father is something I want to continue to learn about and share along the way?

I absolutely love being a dad and can discuss so many facets of it all day. It feels incredible to be tasked with the challenge of raising beautiful, black, good-hearted humans. Being a parent has vast meaning and limitless things to explore. 

I find myself gravitating more to exploring ways to emotionally connect with my kids and to attend to their emotional needs. This is not the easiest thing to do, and I’m constantly evolving in this area.  I have and will continue to learn a lot about being an emotionally connected dad and would like to share information with others in hopes of improving their life and or/ fatherhood experience.

Improve myself as a person.

Fatherhood has taught me many things about myself. I’ve learned about my strengths and where there’s room for improvement. It has also shed some light on areas of my life that are not fully healed and need to be addressed. 

I struggle with anxiety, imposter syndrome, and an overall lack of confidence in my ability to achieve some of the dreams I have for myself. This blog is one of many aspirations I have in life. The routine required to research, write, publish, and stay engaged with my audience is a built-in diligence/confidence exercise I’m challenging myself with. 

Help my wife. 

My wife does a lot to make sure our children are on the path to success. I want to make sure our efforts match when it comes to investing in our children and make sure she has the time and space to invest in herself – even if that’s just chilling. 

Share information with other dads.

There are countless black fathers who sincerely want to be more involved and develop deeper, meaningful, relationships with their children. I would like to be a source of information to help achieve those desires. 

Rewrite / re-present the narrative attributed to black fathers and their kids

Although, it may be dwindling, historically, there is a stigma related to black fatherhood. Black fathers aren’t present, they aren’t engaged, and generally do not pull their weight when it comes to child-rearing. There are many movements to re-present this narrative, I hope this blog will be one of them. 

Many black dads are doing their part and I will be doing my best to make sure it is shown. Black dads are capable, repositories of love, and they give that love freely to their children.

Black dads love well.



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